EP127: Be On The Move

I’ve been on the move a lot. 

Not just the restless-anxiety-over-exercising from my youth movement. I’ve been packing and moving boxes and relocating where I live.

FOURTEEN TIMES.  In six months.  Yes, you read that correctly.

Just typing that gives me anxiety.  I have friends (men, mind you) that say,  “Hey Kath, just put all your belongings in a backpack and go!”.  But dudes, I’m a girl, and I have some stuff that goes with me. Packing and moving are NOT simply moving a backpack for me.

It is f*&^ing difficult! 

However, I reference one of my favorite artists of all time (David Bowie) and his iconic song, Changes. (Love you, Bowie).

Turn and face the strange…changes.

Sometimes you need to go through change alone. Think of the butterfly that needs to get out of the chrysalis all on her own.

There are also times when a little help can go a long way.

Even though I’m a certified coach myself, I’ve reached out to get help from coaches at various times in life. Now is a time I’m getting a lot out of working with a coach.

Allow me to me tell you about a recent session with my rockstar coach, Jessica.

When Jessica invited me to do a “values” exercise, my first reaction was: “BEEN THERE DONE THAT.” Yes, coaches are not typically the best clients in the same way that many doctors don’t do well as patients.

I have done a ton of “self-assessments” over the years. I know that things like “Love” and “Learning” come up a lot for me. I was surprised when Jessica told me the conclusion of our 60-plus minute exercise, with no mention of either Love or Learning.  

Want to hear my surprising top three values?

Purpose
Opportunity
Recognition   

Whaaaaat?

I talk about this coaching session and revelation in today’s episode. Here are the three “Midwest Mantras” along with a question for each:

  1. Nothing is as constant as change. (I’ve beaten this one to death recently, haven’t I?)

Question: Do you think that change is happening more rapidly now than ever? 

  1. Change is growth; change is a good thing. 

Question: Can we make change fun?

  1. Everybody’s Free to Wear Sunscreen. (This is actually a song based on a commencement speech by Australian filmmaker, writer, and producer Baz Luhrmann). 

Question: What is your favorite lyric & why?

Watch the full episode:

Lyrics for Everybody’s Free to Wear Sunscreen

Ladies and gentlemen of the class of ’99

Wear sunscreen

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it

A long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists

Whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable

Than my own meandering experience, I will dispense this advice now

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth, oh, never mind

You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth

Until they’ve faded, but trust me, in 20 years, you’ll look back

At photos of yourself and recall in a way you can’t grasp now

How much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked

You are not as fat as you imagine

Don’t worry about the future

Or worry, but know that worrying

Is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing Bubble gum

The real troubles in your life

Are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind

The kind that blindsides you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday

Do one thing every day that scares you

Saying, don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts

Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours

Floss

Don’t waste your time on jealousy

Sometimes you’re ahead, sometimes you’re behind

The race is long and in the end, it’s only with yourself

Remember compliments you receive, forget the insults

If you succeed in doing this, tell me how

Keep your old love letters, throw away your old bank statements

Stretch

Don’t feel guilty if you don’t know what you want to do with your life

The most interesting people I know

Didn’t know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives

Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don’t

Get plenty of calcium

Be kind to your knees

You’ll miss them when they’re gone

Maybe you’ll marry, maybe you won’t

Maybe you’ll have children, maybe you won’t

Maybe you’ll divorce at 40, maybe you’ll dance the ‘Funky Chicken’

On your 75th wedding anniversary

Whatever you do, don’t congratulate yourself too much

Or berate yourself either

Your choices are half chance, so are everybody else’s

Enjoy your body, use it every way you can

Don’t be afraid of it or what other people think of it

It’s the greatest instrument you’ll ever own

Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your own living room

Read the directions even if you don’t follow them

Do not read beauty magazines, they will only make you feel ugly

Get to know your parents, you never know when they’ll be gone for good

Be nice to your siblings, they’re your best link to your past

And the people most likely to stick with you in the future

Understand that friends come and go

But a precious few, who should hold on

Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle

For as the older you get

The more you need the people you knew when you were young

Live in New York City once but leave before it makes you hard

Live in northern California once but leave before it makes you soft

Travel

Accept certain inalienable truths

Prices will rise, politicians will philander, you too, will get old

And when you do, you’ll fantasize that when you were young

Prices were reasonable, politicians were noble

And children respected their elders

Respect your elders

Don’t expect anyone else to support you

Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you’ll have a wealthy spouse

But you never know when either one might run out

Don’t mess too much with your hair

Or by the time you’re 40 it will look 85

Be careful whose advice you buy but be patient with those who supply it

Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past

From the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts

And recycling it for more than it’s worth

But trust me on the sunscreen

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